Tuesday, 21 December 2021

Senior living in #Covid times

While we were always talking about how to tackle climate change and pollution and grumbling about no time to spend with family, God just decided he had enough. He decided to step in and here we are. A deadly virus locked down the world and disrupted our lives in such a way that it will probably take us years and years to recover from it.  Economy, livelihood and the very freedom of living life were snatched from us and we lost loved ones. No one was ever prepared for this onslaught. With this came a pandemic of human sufferings.  Thousands of families, including daily wage earners, senior citizens, widows, transgenders, migrant workers, old age homes and orphanages residents, etc, were impacted. But then when we face a situation with helpless times of distress, we not only find ourselves, but humanity comes alive and we actually became truly 'human' with a small act of kindness. In this very frightening environment, there emerged #CovidHeroes who stepped out of their comfort zones to help others without worrying about their own safety. 




People found new strengths and qualities, they never knew they possessed and the deadliest virus that took lives also gave back our lives to live anew. In a long time, people stopped to smell the flowers, as they say. However, in all the good, there is something we seemed to have sidestepped. The importance of the impact the virus had on seniors, which cannot be understated. It is at this stage, that most seniors actually required more care and support but sadly, it did not happen. It has affected their psychology, physical strength, behavioral patterns and they have become quite unstable and unsure of themselves.

Impact on Seniors

The COVID-19 pandemic caused untold fear and suffering for seniors across the world. As the virus spread rapidly to developing countries, the death rate for seniors also rose rapidly. Health care was denied for conditions unrelated to COVID-19 as the case rose. Seniors, especially those with medical problems like cardiovascular disease, diabetes, chronic respiratory disease and cancer became more likely to contract the virus. Neglect and abuse in elder care facilities impacted their well-being and mental health.

The first wave of #Covid came suddenly and with the hasty lockdown and no proper guidelines, it was all was trial and error. When a national lockdown was declared, the citizens, especially senior citizens who were already suffering from other illnesses or co-morbidity were asked to stay at home and not step out. Daily walks, exercise routines, access to a doctor, health care, medicine, food, recreation, caregivers, housekeeping was suddenly stopped. The pandemic impacted the health of seniors living on their own, that of seniors whose children had settled abroad and even of those living with their families in different ways. Misinformation and negative news added to the panic. To add to this, was the uncertainty and fear that they might not be fit enough to travel or perhaps never be able to travel abroad or within the country, to see their children in the near future. As time passed, restrictions in movement, communication problems and social distancing lead to social isolation, not just with seniors, but every member of the family. Children, who were used to their space began to feel suffocated working from home and it impacted their interaction with their parents too. Everyone was head down into mobiles or laptops and even talking to seniors about their daily routine went missing. With no entertainment or physical interaction, the atmosphere at home was affected and in some cases finances, work pressures and stress in the family became issues. 

The good part was that many organisations started virtual socializing and online events to keep seniors from being completely isolated while in lockdown. Some taught them skills like handling finance, making video calls while some created online contests. This helped a great deal in lessening the feeling of isolation and disconnect. However, living in urban India, most of us tend to forget about those seniors living in rural India, who have also been affected by the pandemic and social distancing norms. Workers have migrated back to their home towns and this has led to an increased risk of exposure to the virus among rural communities. There is a lack of awareness, low levels of nutrition, ill-equipped and insufficient public health centers too. Worst was the impact on women of all ages trapped at home with abusive husbands and their drinking problems.   

But where there are problems, there are also people who find the solutions.  #CovidHeroes, such as Actor, Sonu Sood helped migrant workers of all ages, to reach homes and even arranged foods and shelters for those stuck in the lockdown. Closer to home is my friend and inspiration, Sailesh Mishra, Founder, Silver Innings, who has been tirelessly helping seniors living alone at home and seniors at his own resident's home, since the first wave of the virus struck. Another friend, Dipesh Tank, a Mumbai-based anti-trafficking activist, distributed reflectors to stick on the backs of migrants to ensure their safety as they walked home on the highways. How can we even forget those unsung #CovidHeroes who went out of the way to help seniors and others, find oxygen cylinders, hospital beds and provided them medicines, provisions, etc? These heroes restored our faith in humanity each day during the darkest hours of the pandemic, despite the several challenges faced.

Challenges faced by seniors

Everyone faced challenges, irrespective of age, but in this entire time, seniors seemed to be lost in the mayhem.

Ø  Efforts to protect the mental and physical health of seniors as also that of health workers, caregivers, volunteers and community leaders became difficult. Mental health took a back seat.

Ø  Everything was sudden and unsystematic with no proper protocol or guidelines. There was a complete lack of coordination between different authorities from the Police to Municipality to Medical health workers, Health care professionals and so on.

Ø  With no public transport and restriction on movement, the caregivers and care partners could not attend to seniors. No one was available for home care.

Ø  Caregivers, medical professionals and nurses were unable to attend to the seniors as housing societies refused entry. Societies acted tough and did not allow people to visit, or home deliver grocery, medicine, food etc.

Ø  Seniors who spent evenings on the garden bench with their peers felt disconnected and at a loss.

Ø  Family members with person with Dementia and disability at their home faced challenging times.

Ø  Physiological changes that come with aging and other health conditions spiraled and reports of increase in Elder Abuse began to do the rounds.

Ø  Single and seniors living on their own suffered most especially as they faced challenges to use Digital media.

Ø  In rural India, the non-availability of transport, medical aid, food, absence of family members and even loss of employment and ignorance and myths around the pandemic and its transmission, affected the mental health of the seniors in remote parts of the country.

Ø  Misinformation, comorbidity, shortage and accessibility of the vaccination drive took time to get resolved, but by then many had already suffered at the hands of the virus.    

When heartbreaking stories began to come in from all corners of the country, I turned again to Sailesh Mishra, Silver Innings to ask how difficult it was for him to handle the situation at his A1 Snehanjali, Mumbai city's First Assisted Living 24 x 7 Eldercare home for Dementia, Alzheimer's and Parkinson's. "Regular talk, updates and video call to families of residents and staff with regular counseling of staff and meeting the basic everyday needs of staff and care partners were key. It is a difficult time, but we continue with our routine meaningful engagement activity and person-centric care", he said. He added, ‘Sadly, people never realised that seniors were as it is socially vulnerable and that the lockdown brought with it a whole lot of other problems, such as insomnia, depression and those not directly related to the pandemic. I still receive a number of calls from seniors for support."

 

I questioned the way forward for support to seniors and here are some way forward learnings as suggested by Sailesh Mishra, Founder, Silver Innings:

Way forward learnings by Sailesh Mishra, Founder, Silver Innings

Ø  Social distancing should  not result in social disengagement, in any way

Ø  Create disaster management plans for times like the pandemic, especially for seniors with a special focus on food, clothing, shelter, health care, recreation, livelihood, security and rehabilitation with dignity

Ø  Make old-age care as ‘Essential Services’ in the manifesto

Ø  Create a national single point contact center for seniors with a mental care helpline and outbound calls to understand their needs and well-being.

Ø  Identify, understand and resolve the challenges currently faced by seniors, not just in urban areas but in rural areas of the country too.

Ø  Involve NGOs, educational institutes, relevant authorities, etc. and create a university course on old age care with special SOP for Dementia and mental health.  

Personally, I think the first step would be to start closer to home and involve local communities and societies to take care of seniors in their areas, especially those living alone. The next and perhaps the most important step is that youth with new technology and seniors with their experience, need to work together to create a better inclusive environment for all. Protecting senior citizens rights will help them to lead dignified, secure lives, as equal members of society will enable them to be treated with respect on an equal basis with younger people. Providing care and comfort to enable them to lead a healthy life without worries and anxiety is their right. Aging cannot be prevented and everyone grows old. We do not need another pandemic to teach us how to deal with the well-being of our seniors. 


For senior citizens related issues contact: sailesh@silverinnings.com 

 

 

Saturday, 8 May 2021

Let's talk #MissionHelp in any way you can - Hira Mehta

 



A deadly virus has locked down the world and disrupted our lives in such a harsh and sad way, that it will take years and years for us to recover from it. Economy, livelihood and the very freedom of living life has been snatched from us. We are losing loved ones and everyone is sailing in unchartered waters waiting to get to shore intact. No one was ever been prepared for this onslaught, and yet it has not stopped the human race  from being who we are - human. We all know from the ashes rises the phoenix and it is no wonder that everyone has joined hands to do whatever they can, to make it better for those who need help. Networking has worked wonders and become prime for helping the community, especially in this pandemic. There are many Covid soldiers out there, but there is that one untiring humanitarian soldier, Sailesh Mishra, that I admire, get inspired and who never fails to amaze me.

Sailesh Mishra, the Founder of Silver Innings, a Social Enterprise which is working towards creating an elder friendly world where aging becomes a positive and rewarding experience, through his Silver Innings Foundation, has once again stepped up. He has been tirelessly helping underprivileged and vulnerable families, single women, differently abled, transgenders, widows with monthly grocery and especially for senior citizens are struggling, since the virus struck in March 2020.  Even during this 2nd wave of the pandemic, since April 2021, Sailesh and his foundation continue to do good work and he has added-on three more humanitarian programs to help and serve others.

#MissionFoodDonation - Silver Innings for Humanity Foundation in association with Sushma Rana Malhotra, Food Partner & Founder, Aanyo's and delivery partner, Making The Difference (NGO) has been providing free homemade meal two times a day for people in quarantine in the Mira Bhayanadar area and also distributing ration to needy since a long time now.

#MissionFeedIndia - Providing free dry ration to underprivileged and vulnerable in association with 'Market Place'.

#Mission5000, Mission JOSH - Due to the surge in cases, there is now a huge demand for oxygen concentrators. Amid the massive shortage, social media is flooded with messages of people looking for oxygen concentrators for their friends and family. This initiative supported by Bollywood Singer, Tulsi Kumar, Actress Bhagyashree, Designer Sonaakshi Raaj, Special IGP of Maharashtra Dr Pratap Dighavkar, Global Business leaders Farhana Haque of Microsoft and Farzana Haque of TCS has set out to provide free oxygen concentrators to patients at home through their partner NGOs Sanjeevani- Life Beyond Cancer, Ladli Foundation and Silver Inning Foundation  in the Covid affected cities across India focusing and is prioritising those who require immediate attention (including cancer patients) in Mumbai, Delhi, Jaipur, Ahmedabad, Guwahati, Surat, Pune, and a few more cities. It is India’s first fundraiser that aims to provide oxygen concentrators with an idea behind being to save beds in hospitals for the use of severely impacted patients.

Support mission here: https://www.ketto.org/fundraiser/mission5000

And of course, there is Sailesh's on-going #MissionSeniorCitizen of Silver Innings. Sailesh continues and will continue to help affected people who live alone or have elders at home as also address and resolve the micro and macro level issues of the elderly.

Support my friend, Sailesh Mishra in his heartwarming efforts. Write on   silverinnings@gmail.com or whatsapp 9987104233

It is said that together we can make a difference. If you cannot step out to help,  then like me, perhaps you can become the bridge, the voice for the cause and share information to as many people as possible. Things do not just happen, nor get resolved on their own, so what's the point of waiting for things to happen. Every day is a struggle and the truth is it is the time to act, join hands, donate  and support in any way one can....... and now it is up to you!

ABOUT

Sailesh Mishra, is an extremely dedicated social entrepreneur and Founder of Silver Innings, Founder of  'A1 Snehanjali’-Mumbai's 1st 24x7 dedicated assisted living, elder care home, author of a book titled 'REMEMBER ME - YOU, ME AND DEMENTIA', and a unique annual stage talent show for the 55 plus seniors to showcase their talents titled "UMANG" - organized by his silver innings foundation, since 2008. An exclusive referral search portal ‘Silver Innings Helpline" has also been set up. Contact: silverinnings@gmail.com or whatsapp 9987104233.

 

 

Monday, 8 March 2021

KHUD KO KHOJ RAHI HAI JOH


 



POEM DEDICATED TO WOMEN STILL STRUGGLING TO COME OUT OF THEIR SHELLS.....


                   खुद को खोज रही है जो ....आज की औरत हूँ मैं

ना तेरे हाथ, ना तेरे साथ, ना तेरी कठपुतली हू मैं ....

ना बंधन कोई... ना अंध विश्वास ...

ना नफरत की इजाजत है .....

ना सुनेगी ... ना साहुगी चुपचाप

संगर्ष की आग मुझ में भी है......

मौन हूँ, पर बोल भी शक्ति हूँ मैं

में बंधन को जोडना भी जानू ....

मोद आये तोढना भीना जानू ....

आपनी ताकात खूद हूं...

 मैं आप  अपनी सच्चाई बनूंगी  ...

.......मैं ही दुर्गा, मैं ही काली... मैं चंडिका भी हूं

मैं सत्य, सीख और ज्ञान हूं  .. 

शिक्षक, दोस्त, मार्गदर्शक भी हूं

सीखना भी चाहूं  सिखा भी सकती हूं...

 मैं खुद संघर्ष की कहानी हूं 

....मैं ही दुर्गा... मैं ही काली...  मैं  सरस्वती भी हूं

खुले आसमान में उड़ना  हैं मुझे  .....

कौन हू मैं, खुद से  पूछना हैं मुझे

हर लकीर में नयी कहानी लिखनी हैं मुझे

कुछ सपने बाकी हैं जो पूरा करने हैं मुझे

माँ, बेटी, पत्नी, सब हूँ मैं ... हर कर्तव्य निभाऊंगी ....

परं फिर भी, कभी कभी... खुद से मिलना जाया करूंगी

मैं ही आप शक्ति बनूंगी 

मैं ही दुर्गा... मैं ही काली...  मैं भवानी भी हूं

खुद को खोज रही है जो    

मैं वोह नाई कहनी हूँ

Monday, 20 January 2020

Horrors at the Movies....







Horrors of horrors ... This blog is about the horror at the movies.... Let me start by sharing some facts that I read on Wikipedia about the beginings of the horror genre. I quote : "The first horror film on record is LE MANOIR DU DIABLE ( mad in 1896), created by one of film's earliest visionaries, georges méliès." Fast forward to 1923, when Universal Pictures started producing films with horror and mostly gothic elements. The first film of the series was the Hunchback of Notre Dame and there on many followed from all over the world. In my country, India, it is said the first real horror movie made was Mahal in 1949 by Kamal Amrohi, but the badge of honor according to me, should go to the Ramsay Brothers who have made more than 30 horror films in India and will always have a place in Bollywood’s hall of fame as the pioneers of horror.

Not everyone enjoys the horror genre because when it comes to  horror films, it is often cited as the reason of  nightmares and  physical reactions such as sweaty hands, tensed muscles, rise in blood pressure or heart rate.  Some people don't like to watch horror movies because they have bad dreams thereafter and there are those too who don't like sleeping in the dark alone. Bollywood and Hollywood films have found their audience and it is not surprising that with the advent of the 3D format the screams are getting louder.  I for one, will never forget the Ramsay films, from  Purani Haveli to Bandh Darwaza and today's films such as Bhoot, Stree and Tumbaad. How can we forget The Nun, IT, The Conjuring, Nightmare  on Elm Street and even Jaws, Titanic or Towering Inferno. Did I say, Jaws, Titanic? You may ask why.. Well it has certainly put the fear of the sea into me and I refuse to take cruises no matter what.  That's scary for me....

The fear of the unknown...the slow buildup of suspense, dead walking, screams and those horrifying faces that pop out of nowhere....that sound or figure that calls out to the friends, walking them deeper and deeper in their own death trap….that nail biting finish when someone manages to escape the jaws of death........ They are  tapping into our fears and doing their best to scare us out of our wits.. That’s horror films for you….

But I wonder what goes on in the minds of those who watch horror movies..  I, for one have a lot of questions to ask especially when it comes to Bollywood …

·         Why does the girl always need a shower in the dead of the night?
·         Why do the lights never work at night?
·         Why is the ghostly woman always in a white gown?
·         Why do they step out of the house at night into the fog or rain? 
·      Why do they go down to the basement in the middle of the night to investigate mysterious   noises
·        Why do they carry that candle to look for that singing voice do they not have a torch...why? if they are not that brave should they not  just go back to sleep!!
·         Why does a black cat always spring out of nowhere?
·         Why do they continue to hang around the bhootia ghar or haunted house the next morning   even after the scary night?

And most importantly, why do they trip and fall for no obvious reason and just can’t seem get on their feet. Why then do they not get up and run instead of crawling backwards screaming “nahin ..nahin” looking up at death.

Besides I would never be caught dead wearing those long nightgowns. How in heaven’s name would I be able to run if I were the victim. Why would I follow the ghostly figure walking at death’s pace. I would have left that haunted place the very next day.  Am I just thinking too much about details. I think I am. The trick is to let the imagination truly let loose in horror movies and I guess the magic would be lost if everyone was as analytical as me. Besides if things got solved at a drop of a hat then the movie would end within minutes, would it not?

I know of many friends who refuse to watch horror or scary movies. Now with the advent of 3D and different types of technology, horror has take a leap straight into the minds of its audience. But where there is good,  there is also the bad. Such as disturbed sleep patterns, keeping you excited and probably distressed too. It could also impact your mood, and your ability to think clearly. So you choose your poison.....Guess what? There are some excellent benefits too of watching horror.... It can help you cope with anxiety... Enhance your brain activity  and makes us more alert for a while.. It is said to even boost  your immune system ... and best of all it can burn nearly 200 calories at a time. Good to know because now I can just hog and hog and then watch one movie and loose 200 calories. No more dieting because apparently the internet says that it is equivalent to calories in a chocolate bar, or a 30-minute walk. So horror films might actually be good for health, after all. How super is that.

Everyone has been afraid of the dark some time or the other and even more so if we are out of our comfort zone, say on a holiday, where the hills are dark and deep and the night sounds are unusual.  Try telling a horror or ghost story to your companions out in the open around a campfire. The changing colour on some of the faces around you will turn more deadly than the ghosts  being spoken about….and don’t forget about that poor old Peepul tree believed to be the home of ghosts especially at night (wonder where they go during the day??). Superstitions have a place in our lives whether we admit or not and it is these that become the masala in the horror movies. Remember the fear of number 13. Hold on,  what do I do now cause I am born on a 13th

Remember that victim who comes tottering in with a knife in his back to deliver a long dialogue and collapse without telling practically anything of value or that dead victim who wakes up to  grabs the ankle. Those yucky creepy, crawly things, that phone never works and neither will the car ever start. Not to forget the spooky music and  most important of all and a must have is the “cross”.....use your fingers to make a cross if you must. You lose that you lose your life.

You know what I have realised watching horror. The last survivor is always a woman. Most men are somehow not capable of surviving in a horror movie.  Is that not just the most awesome thing?  So kudos to all us women out there cause we are always survivors. At home I have my own little horror show, my daughter, who loves the macabre. The more the oozing blood, the more the zombies, vampires, supernatural... the more the ghosts, the more the curdling scream, the happier she is.  And it is not just her my husband too. The possession of just about every damn thing will keep them glued and totally desensitized to fear. Oh my, I just realized that I live among the possessed.

Some people, like my daughter are always wired to watch.. While some like me choose to watch a choice few and some not at all. After all horror is designed to scare, make you  panic, alarm you and summon our hidden worst fears. No matter how many times I try to kill the urge to watch there is no escape now with the onslaught of films available on OTT platforms and as I have said before I have a horror freak at home. Thanks to my daughter, I will be enticed and pulled into the darkness and  mystical world of horror… after all mere bhi bheje mein chemical locha hai!!  and when I am watching that knife in the hand or that person about to step towards the noises coming from the cupboard probably where the unseen horror is hiding, all my analytical skills get tossed out of the window. So until the next film lights up mine and your screen, I guess it's....  “be afraid, be very afraid.”....... “whatever you do, don’t fall asleep.”.....